Five tips to take sexting to the next level

Whether you’re testing the waters with a new hookup or looking to keep things going with your longtime ‘friend,’ these expert-approved tips will help you perfect your sexting. Just keep in mind the basics: consent is a must, and this only works if it’s with someone who turns you on as much as they respect you.

1. Prelude: build up the tension

Sexting, just like face-to-face, needs that bit of intrigue. Here, anticipation is everything. Don’t go straight to the point; build desire slowly, let the tension do its job. Experts recommend starting with a verbal provocation that makes intentions clear but doesn’t show everything. ‘I can’t stop imagining what I’d do with those lips…’ and you’re already warming up.

2. The power of minimalist storytelling

You don’t need to be in top lingerie or naked to get the mood right. The magic is in how you describe it. Ditte Jensen, sexuality expert at Sinful, makes it clear: focus on the sensory, on textures, flavours, on those details that grab you. Speechless? Use emojis that reinforce the tone. Do you feel like giving in to desire? The waving hand emoji could be your ally. More dominant? The little devil never fails.

3. Toys: the perfect complement

Who said toys were only for the physical? Describing how you would use your favourite vibrator or describing what you would do with your partner’s toy adds an extra touch of excitement. Details are key here, but remember: in fantasy, anything goes and there are no limits.

4. Compliments, go easy on them

If you want to keep the energy high, make sure you give feedback to your partner. Sexting can fall short if you don’t know how to express what really turns you on. If the mood isn’t what you were hoping for, redirect the conversation towards what you really want. Be clear and guide him or her towards what turns you on. No filters: the more direct, the better.

5. Always with consent

It never hurts to remember that none of this goes without clear, mutual consent. Talking about boundaries and expectations before getting into hot territory avoids surprises and keeps the experience flowing smoothly. As Jensen says, ‘Communicating what you like can be a little vertiginous at first, but once you get it right, the connection and intimacy rises to another level.’

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